Often times we’re left feeling like being a
stay-at-home mom is not a “real job”.
We let the opinions of others dictate how we feel about what we do. From how we care for our kids, how our home looks, what we’re feeding our family…. Everything!
If you’ve made the decision to stay home and care for your kids than own that decision proudly and know your role as a mother, housewife, and homemaker are all extremely important.
You have 100% control over how your home runs, how your family feels, and how your day is to be managed.
It’s a huge responsibility and if we don’t take it seriously we can get swept up into the day to day. Riding it out, waiting for the tide to fall so we can catch our breath and have our own lives.
I am a strong believer that that way just plan sucks! And is not the way you should go about your motherhood journey. Yes your days are FULL and yes you can take care of your kids, your home, and yourself at the same time.
You can live your life with purpose and decide that your many roles have great meaning, because they do! You can also have the control you desire, within those many roles.
Now let me be clear, I do not mean control as in everyone and everything will fall into line and order will magically rain down from the heavens.
But that’s not what I’m after in my journey anyway. I hope you’re not either because if you are you’re in the wrong place. (sorry but I’m just not your girl)
I don’t feel as though we have kids to “control” them but to help them grow, learn, and flourish into adulthood.
It’s a long journey till then isn’t it and we should enjoy the roads that lead us there without losing ourselves in the process. Or resenting our responsibilities along the way.
When we approach our roles with dedication and joy we can greatly impact the lives of our family. We can find amazing and fulfilling purpose within the many hats we wear.
When we show up and care we show our family how much they mean to us in the process and we build a bond that can last a lifetime. You have so much power by running your home and you should feel incredibly blessed and grateful for that privilege.
It may come with some sacrifices but we can tip the scales in our favor in so many ways.
Starting with embracing our roles, enjoying our children,
and loving ourselves through it all.
Seemingly simple tasks like clean clothes show your family how much you care. Instead of waking up wondering who’s wearing what and becoming incredibly stressed by the sink full of dishes that greet you as you make your way into the kitchen you can create ease into your days with simple routines.
Making sure the dishwasher is loaded up and ran each evening, washing a load of clothes a day, and doing a quick pick up before bed can have an amazing shift in how you feel as a mother in the trenches.
Simplifying meals, teaching your kids chores, and taking time for yourself even when you think you can’t – creates flow and lifts some of the pressure off your shoulders to “do it all”.
Creating simple routines to follow in the morning and at night makes getting out the house and into bed on time much simpler. Everything starts to run much smoother when everyone has their expectations set and knows the drill so to speak.
One thing that makes a huge difference is making sure everyone is getting enough sleep – including you. So if this isn’t in place yet start with your night time routine. Slowly shifting everyone into a calmer state at night allows for everyone to get the rest they need to be at their best.
Another is getting a handle on the big rocks of homemaking: dishes, laundry, and meal times. Once these things have a rhythm and are getting accomplished daily life seems lighter and much more manageable. I know what it’s like to be drowning in laundry piles and how quickly things can pile up if you turn away for even a second.
So taking the time to get these practices in place will make a huge difference in how you mother and show up in the world.
One step at a time and as always progress over perfection,